This is hard for a man to comprehend. He can come close to understanding a woman’s experience of sharing and relating by comparing it to the satisfaction he feels when he wins a race, achieves a goal, or solves a problem. Instead of being goal oriented, women are relationship oriented; they are more concerned with expressing their goodness, love, and caring. Two Martians go to lunch to discuss a project or business goal; they have a problem to solve. In addition, Martians view going to a restaurant as an efficient way to approach food: no shopping, no cooking, and no washing dishes. For Venusians, going to lunch is an opportunity to nurture a relationship, for both giving support to and receiving support from a friend. Women’s restaurant talk can be very open and intimate, almost like the dialogue that occurs between therapist and patient. 
这一点让男人们难以理解,但只要想想自己赢了比赛、达成目标或是解决问题时获得的满足感,他就能更好地理解女人们对于分享以及他人建立联系这两方面的感受。女人们以关系为重,而非以目标为重;她们更注重表达其善意、爱和关心。两个火星人在午餐时谈论一个项目或一个商业目标,因为他们有一个问题要解决。另外,火星人认为到餐馆去是获取食物的一种高效方式:无需购物、烹饪和洗碗碟。对于金星人来说,共进午餐是培养感情的机会,因为在那种场合下,双方可以向朋友提供帮助,并从朋友那里获得帮助。女人在餐馆里谈论的话题可以涉猎面很广,有些话题还很私密,近乎治疗师和病人之间展开的那类对话。

1.comprehend [kɒmprɪ'hend] 
v. 理解 
reading comprehension 阅读理解

2. orient ['ɔːrɪənt; 'ɒr-] 
n.东方 v.适应，确定方向 
exam-oriented education 应试教育 
quality-oriented education 素质教育

3. approach [ə'prəʊtʃ] 
v.接近  n. 方法，途径

4.intimate ['ɪntɪmət] 
adj.亲密的  n. 知己，至交